Erotic head shaving

As I mentioned last year in a discussion of body mods, I consider hair cutting/shaving to be a kind of erotic body modification, and I’ve increasingly found this more and more erotic over the last couple years.  Why do I find this erotic?  Here’s what I wrote on the subject last June: When my wife is here, she cuts my hair, which I really like (plus, she does it semi-nude while I’m fully nude, so that’s a big bonus).  With the exception of one summer two years ago [now three summers ago], I’ve always had the same haircut.  That summer, my wife shaved my head down to (1/8″, I believe). We let it grow out from there and in a couple months I was back to “normal.”   I’d like to explore this with her again, with her choosing a new look/style for me, either shaved, or high and tight, or something else of her choice.  A fantasy of mine is for me to think I’m getting a standard haircut from her, but halfway through she tells me that she’s selecting a different look for me, and does that, or shaves my head completely, etc.  I’d really like that, and frankly, that is probably the kind of boost I need to get me to change my hairstyle.

Before my wife left for Europe this summer, we discussed a number of times that she would shave my head before she left when she gave me one last haircut.  Or at least she would seriously consider it.  I very much want it to be entirely her choice.  Sadly, we just never got to it.  We completely ran out of time before her departure because we procrastinated a bit on getting everything done.  So now I’ll never know if she was really going to shave my head before she left.  When we had Skype sex the other day (sadly, she was feeling poorly and didn’t want to masturbate, though she was kind enough to help me), I asked her.  She claimed that she really was going to shave my head before she left and had decided to do it, but we just never had the chance.  She also said that she was going to shave my head when she returned at the end of July.  Then later in the conversation she said she might do it then.  So I really don’t know if she was just saying she would do it to turn me on or if she really was going to.  I guess only time will tell.

My fantasy of how I’d envision it happening if we do it: she waxes all the hair off my chest, groin, and ass, then puts me in chastity.  She tells me I’m going to get a haircut, but won’t tell me whether or not I’m going to get my head entirely shaved down to the scalp.  She positions the stool I sit on so that I can’t see the mirror and requires me to keep my eyes shut.  She proceeds to cut my hair, but I can’t tell exactly how much she’s cut off.  She finishes, looks me in the eyes, and tells me to look in the mirror.  She has a huge, devilish grin on her face as I finally look in the mirror and see that she has shaved all my hair off.  Laughing at the expression on my face, she tells me to get my head wet in the shower, then proceeds to cover it in shaving cream.  She pulls out a fresh razor and neatly cuts off all the remaining stubble so that I am completely, 100% bald.  She tells me to wash the remnants of the shaving cream off then meet her in the bedroom.  I do this, and she that she’s waiting naked for me in bed with her legs spread wide.  “Lick my cunt!” she says.  As I lay there between her thighs, she grips my bald head tightly, caressing my scalp and running her hands all over my head.  As she cums, she keeps her hands on my head and presses her soft thighs around my head, entirely enveloping me as she screams in orgasm.  When she’s recovered, she taps my chastity belt and says, “Now, let’s do something about this.”

Like a lot of fetish/fantasy activities, I am torn: on the one hand, I desperately want to do them.  On the other, I know that day-to-day,. it would be hard to do/live with.  So I am perpetually torn on the issue of having my wife shave my head.  I’d really like her to, because I think it would be sexy as hell, especially if she played up the fetish angle while doing it and afterwards, but I’m also a little scared and nervous about the prospect of living with a shaved head for a couple months while it grows out.  So, do I want my wife to shave my head?  Mostly yes and a little no.  I wonder what she’ll

(And while I love my wife’s hair — the longer the better — I also find women with shaved heads to be pretty erotic too.  With a head shaved completely bald, there’s no hiding behind hair: either you’re pretty/sexy with a shaved head or you’re not.  And I think it definitely takes a powerful, ballsy woman to choose to shave her head simply because she wants to.  And yes, while I know that Britney Spears shaved her head because she was at a really bad point in her life, I actually think she looked pretty hot like that too.)

Some thoughts on my tattoo

As I mentioned previously, I have been wanting a tattoo for a long time.  But, of course, I’m a weird, complex kind of guy, so I wasn’t satisfied with just picking out a design and getting it done.  Nope.  Too easy.  What I wanted was to have my wife pick out a tattoo for me and have me get that design tattooed on me.  Whatever she wanted.  I wanted this to be — as well as a cool tattoo that we both liked and wanted to look at — a voluntary gift of my submission to her, a sign of my trust in her and her control of me.  For me, having her select what tattoo I would get was both a gift from me to her as well as a symbol of my devotion to her.  For me, there are few greater signs of devotion than allowing someone else to control your very appearance and body.  I guess that’s why, for me, body modification writ large is a part of what I consider to be my interest in BDSM.  If that makes any sense to anyone outside my own head.

l I had initially wanted it to be a complete and total surprise until I walked into the tattoo parlor, but reality and saner heads — along with a burning sense of curiosity prevailed and I asked her what design she had picked out.  After keeping me on ins and needles for a long time (I’m not sure that she had even picked it out for a long time), while she allowed me to masturbate for her, she told me what the design would be.  She decided that I would bear the mark from The Story of O that has come to be linked more broadly with BDSM on the upper portion of my right bicep connected with a tribal band that will completely encircle my arm.  When she described what the design of my tattoo was going to be, and traced it with her fingernail on the top part of my right bicep, I almost came then and there, it was so deeply erotic to me.  This is still a very powerful moment for me.

Perhaps it shouldn’t have been a surprise, but the design was entirely unexpected to me and I had no idea what she would come up with. Her idea was absolutely perfect from my perspective: something she came up with herself; a design that is very aesthetically pleasing and sexy as hell; a design that is deeply symbolic of BDSM as well; and also a design that will be a secret between she and I.   Other people who see it will simply think it’s a general tribal kind of design and it works on that level, but she and I will know that it also has deeper meaning.  So it’s even cooler for all that.

We never got a chance to get it done before she went to Europe last year, but I really think it’s going to happen when she gets back in August.  We spoke again about it last week and I asked if she had given any more thought to the tribal design that will make up the band that will encircle my bicep and become the rest of the tattoo.  She said that she hasn’t, but then she suggested that we come up with a tribal design together.  I think that’s a great idea, and I will propose some ideas on that to her.  My initial reaction is that I really liked some of the Hawaiian tribal designs we saw when we were in Hawaii a few years ago, so maybe I will propose something like that if I can find a few that I like.  But I do, of course, ultimately want her to pick the tribal design that she likes best, because for me, that’s a really important part of this tattoo and he reason why I want it.

So here’s what I envision the main part of the design looking like.

(Note to my wife: if this isn’t the design you were thinking of, please let me know!)

Thoughts on body modification

On my updated “About” page, I note that I’m into, among other things, “body modification (including piercings, tattoos, hair alterations, various markings).”  That’s probably worth describing in a little greater detail, because it’s an area I’m especially interested in.

On my wife, I love her tattoos and body piercings.  She has three tattoos, two of which she got, I believe, in college, and one she rewarded herself with for a personal achievement a couple years ago.  All are pretty unobtrusive and classy, and her latest is definitely sexy as hell.  She has a number of delightful piercings, including both nipples, her tongue, her belly button, and one nostril piercing, though she rarely wears any jewelry in that.  I absolutely love all of her piercings (and hope she’ll wear a ring in her nostril more often if she gets some cool new jewelry for it) and it’s gotten to the point where if I see an unpierced nipple or tongue, I’m dramatically less attracted.  Yes, that’s what happens when the only sex partner you’ve had since 1999 has piercings.

As for me, I (sadly) only have a single piercing: one of my nipples.  Got that done in 2000 or 2001 and never had any problems with it whatsoever, so my one and only piercing experience was a positive one.  I have been wanting to get a tattoo for many years and have talked with my wife about this a good amount, and I really think it’s finally going to happen in August.  That subject is worthy of a post all on its own, and I’ll do that another time.  I’d like to post design idea pictures as well as a picture of the finished tattoo when I finally get it, but I want to run that idea by my wife, since it would effectively “out” me if anyone who sees my tattoo also sees this blog.  We’ll see what she says.

Obviously I love the look of tattoos and piercings on my wife, but what is it that attracts me to the idea of body modification for myself (i.e., modifications on my body)?  Two reasons, I think: (1) aesthetics and (2) control.  I really like the look of both tattoos and piercings (almost all of them anyway; for instance, I think that most tattoos on women’s breasts look trashy) and I like the rebellious, devil-may-care attitude of the body mod culture and aesthetic in general.  But I also like the idea of giving up control of my body to my wife (and other people, though less so) and have her decide about changes to the appearance of my body.  For me, that’s a kind of submission that I really like to engage with.  Having her make a decision about some aspect of my appearance is a really big turn-on to me.

So what am I hoping for, body mod-wise in the future?

• Tattoos: I am hoping for the tattoo that my wife and I have been discussing in August 2010.  More on that later, so no spoilers for now.
• Piercings: I would like to get my right nipple pierced as well.  I’m kind of asymmetric currently.  Eventually I’d also like to go up a gauge on the nipple rings.  My current one is pretty tiny.  (Of course, I also have fantasies about genital piercings and other things, but maybe I’ll post about these fantasy piercings separately down the road.)
• Hair: When my wife is here, she cuts my hair, which I really like (plus, she does it semi-nude while I’m fully nude, so that’s a big bonus).  With the exception of one summer two years ago, I’ve always had the same haircut.  That summer, my wife shaved my head down to (1/8″, I believe). We let it grow out from there and in a couple months I was back to “normal.”   I’d like to explore this with her again, with her choosing a new look/style for me, either shaved, or high and tight, or something else of her choice.  A fantasy of mine is for me to think I’m getting a standard haircut from her, but halfway through she tells me that she’s selecting a different look for me, and does that, or shaves my head completely, etc.  I’d really like that, and frankly, that is probably the kind of boost I need to get me to change my hairstyle.
• Physical fitness: I am trying to get in better shape and build muscle, and having some success.  I very much like that my wife tells me when I, for instance, need to increase the number of push-ups I do, and would like it if she stays involved n my workouts and gives me that extra boost I need to stay disciplined and get in even better shape.  Yes, I’m looking for a domme personal trainer.  A new, more badass haircut would go along very nicely with a new tattoo and more muscles. She would like me to consult with a female physical trainer in the Fall, and I’m open to doing that as well.
• Body hair removal: I hate body hair, and love to shave/have saved my balls, plus I trim my pubic hair.  As much as I bitch about the pain, I can’t wait for my wife to wax/sugar me when she gets back.
• Other markings: My skin is very hard to mark with fingernails and floggers, but I love it when my wife does this and hope to explore it a bit more.  One fantasy I have is going to some venue where I have to take my shirt off (the beach, getting my tattoo) and I have obvious claw marks on my back.